Signs that He May Be Having an Affair

Your man may become more selfish about things and start snapping at you - whereas before he was considerate and easy going. If you have children together, he may lose his former interest in the family activities that you usually do together. He may seem less understanding and tolerant with you and the children. It seems to be that your significant other has become a different person! He no longer acts as the attentive, affectionate and loving guy that he used to be.

Not only that, your mate often seems bored and distracted - remaining somewhere 'far away' in his head. You may sometimes feel like you are getting this secretive vibe from him. Even your mutual friends and acquaintances may seem to be vaguely uncomfortable in your presence! You are usually feeling really confused and try to talk to your partner about these nagging doubts but, he just keeps changing the subject or pulling away even further. However, you can catch your cheating boyfriend without having to hire a costly private investigator. Top signs of the cheating boyfriend are listed below, so you can check for yourself if your boyfriend is cheating or not.

Altered sexuality. It can be a decline of touching, cuddling, holding hands or kissing. Once he may have acted like a Bengal tiger towards you in the bedroom - now he always seems preoccupied or is never in the mood! Alternatively, he goes to the opposite end of the scale and is always turned on. Now, he cannot keep his hands off you and is showing different bedroom behavior. It is like your partner's sex drive has been suddenly ignited with a stick of dynamite.

He avoids you. Your mate may stop talking about your future together. He may forget your birthday or stops doing something special for anniversaries or Valentines Day. It may even seem like he has started to pick fights with you - just so that he has the excuse to go elsewhere. His work schedule and daily habits have become much more erratic and unpredictable. He may start spending a lot more time at work, as well as start coming up with more frequent excuses to spend the night away from you or the family. Whether it is due to a business trip or a night out with his pals - when he arrives home the following day - he sometimes insists on doing the laundry. All of these could be the excuses your boyfriend is using to cover up his cheating ways.

The home phone will ring & when you go to pick up the receiver, there is nothing but silence on the other end. Another thing is that; when your partner is answering the phone, he will hastily make an excuse to leave the room. The times when you have walked in on his phone conversations, he abruptly hangs up. He may talk in whispered tones when usually he is louder and open. Or he stopped to answer his cell phone around you. A way to tell if your boyfriend is cheating is if he always turns his ringer off around you or walks out of hearing distance from you.

A cheating partner often starts to take a lot more pride & care in his appearance. Don't be at all surprised if he goes from being almost a couch potato at home, to being a fully motivated guy who is obsessed with his image. Also he may start getting up early to put on his gym clothes & go work out. Often, there will be additional trips to the shopping center to get a more trendy hair cut, for some new clothes & a nice cologne or even more attractive looking underwear!

If your boyfriend’s behavior suddenly changes, there is a possibility that he may be finding fault with you in order to justify his cheating in his mind. The opposite of this behavior is being overly nice. You may start receiving flowers from him when he rarely buys you flowers. Or you start to get far more gifts from him than usual. This is because he may be giving them to you simply to try to assuage his own guilt. If you going to ask him about his behavior he gets very irritated and defensive. You may just have this gut feeling inside of you that something is not quite right. Do not ignore this feeling. I have to say that a woman's instincts are usually pretty spot on. Pay attention to your intuition!

If you discover your boyfriend is cheating, seek support from those around you like friends and family. Do not get revenge by sleeping with one of his friends because it just brings you down to his low level and you should strive to be the bigger person. The circumstances of your boyfriend’s cheating will allow you to decide whether to leave or stay. It is very therapeutic to write down your anger, sadness and disappointment in the form of a letter or a cheating boyfriend poem. Allow yourself some grieving time and then get right back into the game of life by filling your life with activities that interest you.